So often we think “no one will notice if I just..” (insert whatever cheat here). Whether it be eating that cookie, or skipping our workout or that last lap on our run. Who are we kidding? Who are we cheating really? The truth is, the only person that is going to suffer is ourselves. Someone does notice and it matters. When we can realize that every bit does count and it counts for us individually, we will start winning.
My son is in kindergarten this year. He’s learning about peer pressure. The other day, a little boy goaded my son into a poor decision. This was a great learning opportunity for my boy! He learned that just because someone else makes it sound appealing and says it’s ok, he’s the one that will pay the price. This is when being different is a great thing. We are all the same and each one unique. Life is a funny dish that way.
When we say the line “Maintain your lane” we are often thinking about other people minding their own business. What if we took that and used it to get tunnel vision about achieving our goals and not worrying what others are doing or saying about us? In this way, we can find success. Too often we concern ourselves with “what does she/he think about me?” or “They said something behind my back”. Taking a note from Martha Graham when she said: “What people in the world think of you is really none of your business” will help you to stay focused. The other day in class one of my classmates kept catching my eye, she thought I was talking about her because of that. I was talking about how much I adore my neighbor to the right of me but because our eyes kept meeting she misunderstood. I think I’ll try to straighten that out tomorrow.
The truth is people are always going to have something to say, everyone seems to have an opinion about how others should live their lives. Don’t worry about it, stay on your own page and work towards your own success. This is not to say that you shouldn’t help others. I love to share my knowledge so that others can find the path to success. But I do not get involved when I hear others gossip. There is never a good in that. Just don’t bother.
I hope we all succeed! I hope that we can all be our best selves and do what we need to achieve our own goals. When we focus on ourselves, we do help others. Our gift in this world is developing our passions and giving it back to the world. Don’t be selfish but don’t give everything you have to everyone. Discernment and believing people when they show you who they are is an important part of all of this.
Much love to all you Starrs!